Who has not heard that as a child? Children should be seen and not heard. From a child’s point of view that can be so damaging. From a parent’s point of view, it can be said in haste, irritation, in the unthinking adult way of distraction with something that in the eyes of the child is trivial and in the mind of the adult is all important. As a parent I know the importance of relationship struggles, uncertainties as a women who asks herself if she is still attractive in the eyes of her man, the financial skating by the skin of your teeth whilst building a business and balancing a household. Grown up problems that grown ups build into more importance than the child who stands behind you with the wilting flower that he snapped off by the head and carried in the sweaty palm of his hand just to show Mummy he loves her. Unnoticed treading on his little toes sticking out of the sandals that he outgrew two months ago. Annoyed with him for sneaking up on you, dismissing what is left of his crushed love, throwing the petals in the pedal bin, that swallows flower and love in an eagerness of a toothless crocodile. His little heart sinks and makes a life long decision then and there. Showing love to the woman that is most important is the most painful thing. Ever.
you’re making me cry!
i dont do this, but i will also remember to pay a bit more attention.